We are 12, sitting on log stumps in a circle: it's the beginning of School of the Wild's first ever full day in the woods.
We have a few activities planned and begin with an opening circle and check-in. One by one we go round and speak in answer to 3 questions:
- What's your name?
- Where have you come from?
- What brought you here?
The talking stick that Alistair found just outside the circle proves perfect for the job, and in the way of sharing circles the world over, it's picked up in turn, giving each of us the opportunity to talk, one at a time without interruption, until we're done.
People feel safe enough to be meaningful, and share honest feelings. About where they're at, and what's important. How much they miss spending time in nature. How it feels like home to be here.
As we listen to each other, we come together as a group.
I shouldn't be surprised. This is the Way of Council. A ritual that derives from Native American traditions and is used by people the world over to facilitate authentic and meaningful group sharing.
It sets the day up perfectly, and we relax, have fun and enjoy being out here together. Thanks I'm sure to the successful sharing at the start.
1. Speak from the heart
When it's your turn, speak in the moment from your heart, and speak with simplicity and honesty. Tell your own story as honestly as you can.
2. Listen with your heart
Listen without judgment, listen with an open mind, even if you disagree with what the person is saying. Try not to comment in your head on what they're saying or think about a response.
3. Speak spontaneously
Resist the temptation to prepare what you're going to say while they're talking. If you're thinking about what you're going to say, then you're not listening completely to the person who's speaking. If you don’t pre-plan, you'll surprise yourself with what comes out when it's your turn.
4. Be lean with words
Keep in mind that there are others who'd like a chance to speak, and that there is limited time. This stops you from rambling!
*With thanks to Alistair Duncan, who learned these rules from the Wilderness Guides.